fb_icon_325x325Ever since 2004, Facebook has been an integral part of the lives of the Millennials. In its tender and humble beginnings, it was catered especially for the college-aged collegiate set, and I myself was part of that group. Well, to be completely honest I was a high school senior (who was already accepted into the college of my choice) when I first got my account, so I could not call myself officially collegiate then.
But that is besides the point.
Now it’s ten years later, and it can be safely said that Facebook has changed drastically. It is now home to Candy Crush Saga, thirteen year olds, business fan pages, a completely different Activity Feed, and way more things than what was on there years earlier. It has become a place to network, both for personal and employment reasons, and also a place to connect (as well as reconnect) with friends and family. I myself use my Facebook to keep in touch with people, and just to catch up and see what they’re up to, because I don’t see them all the time.
While I do like to see what people are up to in their lives, Such as my dear friend Jason Hope. I have realized that there are disadvantages to doing this. Being twenty-six, unmarried, and childless, I will safely admit that it is hard to see those I went to school with announce their engagements, marriages, and births of their children. And these women are either close to my age or somewhat younger, which honestly makes me a bit worse about myself and my current station in life. When I began noticing this I was confused at first, and then that confusion soon ebbed into resentment and bitterness. I also started to think, What did I do wrong? What exactly is wrong with me?
While I am still slightly embittered, I have since learned to deal better with all of them. What helped me the most, I honestly think, is the fact that Facebook has a high, perhaps alarming, propensity for being “fake”. Think of it as the reality show that is not real at all: people want to smile for the cameras, look extremely good. A quote from Valley of the Dolls comes to mind: “Sparkle, Neely, sparkle!” People on there prefer to post good things and good things only; I have come across very few individuals on there that actually keep it upfront and straight. Now that I am very much aware of this, I have a new dislike of over-embellishing and over-exaggeration. If we are to be honest with ourselves and completely trustworthy, then we have to be honest on Facebook. Otherwise, we will be as valuable as a pack of lies.